blind date, the blind date!

i met the guy this evening. we met at william's coffee pub around 5:30pm. he had told me on the phone the night before that he was nervous, that his "heart was just thumpin'". he also told me that he planned on getting there early, so i'd have to look for him. seeing as he's 6'6", i didn't take that as much of a challenge. anyway, he was there before me. he is tall, but not lanky. he's also not unattractive, but i immediately think he's too old for me. it's as though i suddenly forget that i'm 30, and he's only 36. but he may as well be 56.

he's a very nice guy. very open and friendly. but the rendez-vous lasted all of 90 minutes (i told him i had to be outta there by 7pm. can't miss my shows!), and i knew that we didn't make a love connection. chuck woolery would be heart-broken (remember chuck's great laugh? and that smile!) ah chuck, where are you when i need you?

i was proud of myself for at least being upfront with him at the end of the evening and telling him that i wasn't really up for dating right now. he said he'd call to hang out or whatever. and to be honest, i don't even know if i'm up for that. i'm such a hermit. a spinster. i shall adopt nine more cats and put garbage bags over my windows.

blind date, the phone calls!

he called friday night. i saw his name on the phone, and i didn't pick up, but he left a message.

he called 2x on saturday, left one message.

i called him sunday. he's very chatty. he says he likes def leppard, and when i tell him i'm a music snob, he says "oh, you like ac/dc then?" i say no and decide not to pursue that avenue of interest. he tells me he's "average looking" and i take that as my cue to rate myself, so i say "i'm not good at rating myself". he says, "well, i mean, looks aren't everything."

he calls again sunday night. i don't pick up, but he leaves a message. he calls me again monday night. i don't pick up. then, later i decide i'm being silly so i return his call, but the line is busy - he doesn't have voice mail or call waiting. later, i discover that he doesn't own a computer. this does not bode well.

tuesday night, i call him. we set up the coffee date. i get him off the phone by claiming "my roommate just pulled dinner out of the oven". so far, the strikes: doesn't let me get a word in edgewise, and then the little i do say, he forgets. he said happy birthday to me two times in one conversation. the music is a big stumbling block. and he's low tech. i know that should be honourable, but i find it annoying. on the plus side, he seems down-to-earth and relaxed. open with the communication.

i'm dreading this "date," but it would be rude to cancel. ...right?

blind date, the horror!

i may have a blind date this week. and i'm really undecided about it. you could even say i'm conflicted. there's a part of me that is insisting that this is all a bad idea. and then there's another part of me that is trying to make me believe that i have nothing to lose. the big 3-0 has finally come to pass, and it seems to have been the cue for a lot of my friends to say "maybe you should consider lavalife".

it feels like forever since i've had a date, and i find myself thinking that relationships just complicate things. i do want to be in a successful relationship and find that person who i'll live happily ever after with. i don't want to be single, but i also don't want to find myself settling with someone who isn't quite right. but i think i'm terrified to try. and i mean, like, therapy terrified.

a woman i work with is setting me up on a date with her neighbour. i just got off the phone with him, and i'm being such a snob. he likes def leppard and motorbikes. when i told him i was a music snob, he said, "oh, do you like ac/dc?" also, he has a truck that he talks about as though it's a child, and he doesn't like to read. can i date that guy? am i being too snobby? we're going for coffee this week, so we'll see how it goes. but i'm dreading it.